How we participate in this world, in my humble opinion, determines what good we get from it. It is true for anyone. It seems to me that those of us who have two spirits living inside need interaction with others at both levels to be successful as a human being.
I was a surfer for many months before I took up the challenge that was included in an article by one of our sisters here in Blogistan (you know who you are girlfriend) and I sent out that first email.
Give and take is the essence of a true life. I can divide my life as Halle into two very distinct parts. Chronologically determined by that one event, these two sides are more correctly described as internal and external Halle. Internal Halle dressed occasionally and felt empty. External Halle is not as concerned about the dressing and is a living and breathing person. She is someone who has others who she is getting to know, and they are getting to know her. She has issues that engage her and she cares deeply about her world, because she HAS a world to care about.
Please, if you are like I was, give it a try. Reach out to someone in Blogistan whose story touches you. Tell them something of yourself and what it is about their story you relate to. Let it be known that you welcome interaction. Take a risk. Expand your world girl.