Meg, in a post on December 20th made some interesting observations from her point of view, one I have never explored; that of the crossdresser who is becoming comfortable not only heading out the door, but interacting with the public at large. Petra and Stana have certainly got to that place, and have written about their experiences and the feelings it has generated.
Meg wrote: “I also think this is another reason some men think they've gone from transvestite to transsexual. I believe they think they're transvestites until they break that self-acceptance barrier. Then they can look further inward, to see themselves, to understand who they are. You can't do that when others are defining you and you're trying to meet their expectations.”
Looking inward, finding self-acceptance is a place that is truly wonderful, even when it brings its own set of challenges.
We tend to think in terms of what is next; that is just the way we are built as a species. In this case, it works against us, because self-acceptance is a place we should try to live. Define yourself. Meet your own expectations. Be true to yourself here and now.