tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post1352889820220175111..comments2024-01-31T09:36:11.225-05:00Comments on Two Spirits - One Halle: feeling disjointedHallehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-17084706029431673082011-12-20T21:32:29.215-05:002011-12-20T21:32:29.215-05:00Clearly, I'm late in reading this post and som...Clearly, I'm late in reading this post and some of what you write has been dealt with. I did want to comment on this:<br /><br /><i>Even when I was willing to pretend to be a manly man, it was never something I excelled in. No, let me be honest, I sucked at 'manly'. Since abandoning my façade this has only got worse. In a pack of men, I might as well have a bag over my head for all Caliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-4163503807969752422011-12-10T08:37:05.730-05:002011-12-10T08:37:05.730-05:00Halle:
I feel for you, as our situations are a bi...Halle:<br /><br />I feel for you, as our situations are a bit similar. While my spouse and I have only been together for about 15 years, we originally had a very strong bonding and that has carried us through her more recent change in heart regarding Arianwen. While Arianwen was originally accepted as part of the relationship, external factors have now contributed to make her an exile -- out ofArianwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02822260392408310667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-84558372859060639192011-12-10T02:15:31.164-05:002011-12-10T02:15:31.164-05:00When I became aware of what I really was dealing w...When I became aware of what I really was dealing with I found it easier, for the time being, to deny some of the more extreme possibilities of what Amy and I were facing. Then I hit the wall. It was real tense at first, then the tension wore off, and Amy and I are now at a place where she is comfortable with a simple idea. No matter what happens, she will have a good friend by her side. My shape Sarah Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13018597739320720216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-43792471375921787962011-12-09T00:06:49.714-05:002011-12-09T00:06:49.714-05:00Halle,
I'm sorry that your wife's reactio...Halle,<br /><br />I'm sorry that your wife's reaction is the one that so many of us fear. That fear is what holds us in the tightest of grips, more than any other IMHO. Hopefully, with some more time, things will change and an outcome more like Caroline's will be possible.<br /><br />In my case, the months and years are going by, but while I am not able to do RLT, etc. Karin is Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-82900653803565625742011-12-08T19:31:12.639-05:002011-12-08T19:31:12.639-05:00Caroline, I'd like you to know how much your u...Caroline, I'd like you to know how much your upbeat comments have meant to me. Knowing that for some there is a future where both come out feeling positive is so important. Thank you. <br /><br />Perhaps the taking off of the bandaid is me moving forward to do what I must, letting her know what she is dealing with. I wonder if in my attempt to make things work for us, and delaying so much, I Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-51660041200043047582011-12-08T16:38:23.143-05:002011-12-08T16:38:23.143-05:00Halle, my thoughts are with you. I have nothing to...Halle, my thoughts are with you. I have nothing to suggest that could possibly be of any help to you in respect of the circumstances you describe but I can say that I have quite often felt very disjointed in my life for other reasons than yours and have learned to live with my past and my present.It can get better whichever way it goes.Ellenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14965850008354379369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-68588735374925750352011-12-08T14:01:48.038-05:002011-12-08T14:01:48.038-05:00My life has turned out to be the proof that a coup...My life has turned out to be the proof that a couple can stay together when one of the partners transitions after half a lifetime together.<br /><br />There was no whooping with joy when I made my announcement, I could not have been further from the typical male but it still came as a surprise to her.<br /><br />After such a time together we had both already transitioned so far from who we were Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-35748528106737490932011-12-08T13:08:38.435-05:002011-12-08T13:08:38.435-05:00Thank you both for those thoughts and hopes and ye...Thank you both for those thoughts and hopes and yes, prayers too. <br /><br />xoxHallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-49961560027475118602011-12-08T12:56:16.024-05:002011-12-08T12:56:16.024-05:00Dearest Halle,
If I was to write this post, I cou...Dearest Halle,<br /><br />If I was to write this post, I could not have said it better. You have hit some very raw nerves with my own situation, and rendered me to leak fluid from my eyes.<br /><br />While it is true that my wife and I are both Christians, and divorce is not in our vocabulary, except in the case of infidelity ( which is not a possibility ), we are struggling a bit to remain the Cynthia Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16222413324022459669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-56879704319094917842011-12-08T12:51:43.734-05:002011-12-08T12:51:43.734-05:00Its hard to read posts such as yours - I always ha...Its hard to read posts such as yours - I always have a desperate wish that partners can support us through the challenges we face. Clearly this is often a misplaced hope and it saddens me this is the case. Its seems that the loss of some hair is a very small thing but clearly it's the representation of what it means more than the act itself. <br /><br />I hope that you both can find a way to Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14342124169953960479noreply@blogger.com