tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post5831473260565481102..comments2024-01-31T09:36:11.225-05:00Comments on Two Spirits - One Halle: Loneliness ~ Stealth ~ FameHallehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-49794212211293983822012-07-21T15:27:39.380-04:002012-07-21T15:27:39.380-04:00Calie, thank you for making your choice to support...Calie, thank you for making your choice to support this new friend. I am confident that someday I'll find a way to do as you say. <br /><br />xxx<br />HalleHallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-52339731598209901452012-07-21T13:29:05.185-04:002012-07-21T13:29:05.185-04:00A trans friend recently suggested to me that it wo...A trans friend recently suggested to me that it would be wrong for me to meet another transitioner, in public, who is just beginning her journey. The reason is that many people in the community know me and she fears that I might be associated with the transitioner who, like most when they first begin going out presenting in the gender of choice, simply do not pass.<br /><br />I mention this Caliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-68300696270560791252012-07-06T11:22:46.187-04:002012-07-06T11:22:46.187-04:00Whether we call them 'baby steps' (as Lisa...Whether we call them 'baby steps' (as Lisa has suggested, and my friend Suzi has advocated all along) or 'gradual self-discovery', this has certainly become the reality of my transformation. <br />Much like an adolescent, I am slowly finding and revealing the real person hiding under the façade. <br />Leslie, the toughest choice and the one I have determined I will not accept, hasHallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-54996947148071844592012-07-06T04:01:58.324-04:002012-07-06T04:01:58.324-04:00What an astute observation from C, as always. Tha...What an astute observation from C, as always. Thank you for sharing it and exploring it.<br /><br />I have always held firmly that I would rather be alone than lonely. Not that I will ever make that choice for myself. And as you said, sometimes the loneliness is worst in the company of friends.<br /><br />Tough choices abound...Leslie Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15373261212549008939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-73702878954597633902012-07-05T15:24:57.986-04:002012-07-05T15:24:57.986-04:00The more willing I am to show people the true me t...The more willing I am to show people the true me the happier that I become. With that being said most still only know those aspects that I want them to know, so there is still stealth.Nadine Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06115982789260659611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-23702890582057648452012-07-04T13:30:36.420-04:002012-07-04T13:30:36.420-04:00Lisa, I do appreciate your observation on the vast...Lisa, I do appreciate your observation on the vastness of the options, because it seems to me the extreme ends of that 1 to 10 spectrum are the most scary; 1. Do nothing 10. Become fully female; scary for very different reasons. Targeting that path that allows some wiggle room where one can explore seems to be the most desirable. It has been my habit in life to act suddenly, almost as though Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-48778450787419576092012-07-04T13:20:29.614-04:002012-07-04T13:20:29.614-04:00Kathryn, "this too shall pass" seems a f...Kathryn, "this too shall pass" seems a faint hope now. <br />I do often ask can I pass as myself, whoever that is? <br /><br />Perhaps it is an old model of behaviour that binds me and stealth is high on the list of inappropriate actions found there, along with caring who knows your history.<br /><br />Would self examination ever seem unnecessary? I doubt it, no matter what the future Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-89186001759256680052012-07-04T00:26:44.374-04:002012-07-04T00:26:44.374-04:00Hi Halle,
I found Aligning who you are and how the...Hi Halle,<br />I found Aligning who you are and how the world sees you was the most important thing I have ever done.<br />Obviiously the exact path is different for us all but I found hiding myself was painful and led to lots of sadness.<br />Thats not to say there are not diffciulties when / if disclosure comes but I found the pain to much less than anticipated and definately the best decision Lisa Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03664740486079007977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-2156169074959557742012-07-03T19:45:04.772-04:002012-07-03T19:45:04.772-04:00Is this conversation about the dichotomy between &...Is this conversation about the dichotomy between "Can I pass" and "this too shall pass"?<br /><br />Recently many are beginning to transition in place. Not everyone seeks the kind of stealth you describe be it in transition or no transition. <br /><br />It's a little like having a history no matter what, is it not?<br /><br />It is living a paradigm that has shifted and Kathryn Dumkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16054997856180869508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-73752516364681417122012-07-03T12:56:22.990-04:002012-07-03T12:56:22.990-04:00Parallel paths indeed Caroline, for it seems to me...Parallel paths indeed Caroline, for it seems to me that just as an inner spirit is giving me the desire to try wings, the loneliness and stealth clip them. As you suggest, some opportunities tend to pass you by and growing distraction almost caused me two months ago to abort a project that is now bringing a great amount of joy. <br /><br />I am guessing that you are 'voting' for option 1 Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-13248974871991088522012-07-03T12:46:43.571-04:002012-07-03T12:46:43.571-04:00Deja vu…
We may have been treading parallel paths...Deja vu… <br />We may have been treading parallel paths, I stared to become fairly well known in the arts here but that opened up curable wounds. I hated that the real me was being buried even deeper by the brightness of the spotlight. Instead of choosing liftoff panic caused the mission to be aborted and I have seen lesser beings sail on to great success and material comfort while I hid my ugly Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-52505676507149370042012-07-03T11:59:41.804-04:002012-07-03T11:59:41.804-04:00Oh so correct Ellena.
I cannot possibly know of y...Oh so correct Ellena. <br />I cannot possibly know of your own joys and trials, but we can still feel some empathy because we have traveled our own road and felt these things.Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-13541921505786807082012-07-03T11:32:14.536-04:002012-07-03T11:32:14.536-04:00Reading you reminded me of Kafka writing "Whe...Reading you reminded me of Kafka writing "When you stand in front of me and look at me, what do you know of the griefs that are in me and what do I know of yours? And if I were to cast myself down before you and tell you, what more would you know about me that you know about Hell when someone tells you it is hot and dreadful?"Ellenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14965850008354379369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-81790599772530058072012-07-03T11:26:31.079-04:002012-07-03T11:26:31.079-04:00Hmm, hadn't thought of a poll, but thanks for ...Hmm, hadn't thought of a poll, but thanks for the idea 'An'.Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-25261367518280008382012-07-03T11:13:08.762-04:002012-07-03T11:13:08.762-04:00"Accept the stealth
Accept that loneliness is..."Accept the stealth<br />Accept that loneliness is part of the human condition <br />Learn to live with feelings of loneliness<br />End the self examination"<br /><br />Sounds like a plan to me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com