tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post716350603792477978..comments2024-01-31T09:36:11.225-05:00Comments on Two Spirits - One Halle: Who's Façade Is It?Hallehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-46327197844901257722010-06-19T03:38:09.724-04:002010-06-19T03:38:09.724-04:00As you well know, you and I are in similar boats. ...As you well know, you and I are in similar boats. You've given me much to think about here, thoughts that aren't happy.<br /><br />I've been trying to tear down my facade for three years now, and Mrs. L keeps insisting that it stay up. I crave honesty, but it isn't even an option. Apparently, our future involves tiptoeing through one another's egg shells, neither of us Leslie Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15373261212549008939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-8994473767735718482010-06-13T10:44:43.213-04:002010-06-13T10:44:43.213-04:00Your post was very touching and eloquently written...Your post was very touching and eloquently written Halle. I feel that I want to respond to it, but I don't know how as we travel different paths. I see many different couples around me in a similar situation as yours and I often wonder how I and my partner would have dealt with it.<br /><br />But I look at a marriage as simply a union of two people and the whole husband/wife thing is Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05117237397242817491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-45284147891632215422010-06-05T18:30:50.709-04:002010-06-05T18:30:50.709-04:00Dear Halle, I can only say that I understand and f...Dear Halle, I can only say that I understand and feel your pain. As you have noticed, and others here have pointed out, your relationship with your beloved has forever changed. It will from this point on continue to evolve and change until a resolution is reached. That is inevitable. What is yet to be determined are the terms of that resolution. One thing is clear. YOU are no longer the MANAnnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02696670919817140802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-32608036152544322472010-06-04T11:41:01.228-04:002010-06-04T11:41:01.228-04:00Facades are usually built to protect what is hidde...Facades are usually built to protect what is hidden behind, but they can only be temporary as they cannot last. <br /><br />So don't regret what you and she have only done naturally. Your need to be true to yourselfand consequently true to her overcame your fears and so you tore down the facade you had built to protect you from each other.<br /><br />It's completely understandable that Sophie Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00058775423288260277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-91424135524303554282010-06-04T09:40:22.432-04:002010-06-04T09:40:22.432-04:00What an honest post.
I know exactly what you mean....What an honest post.<br />I know exactly what you mean. I was in exactly the same situation for a long time. You have explained the feelings and dilema beautifully.<br />I can only say that my wife did find a release in sharing this with some people. Initially they were partners of other women in our situation and then onto family members.<br />Eventually this opportunity for her to discuss and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-23120411808458314562010-06-04T09:06:00.336-04:002010-06-04T09:06:00.336-04:00Your tone speaks volumes of your love for your wif...Your tone speaks volumes of your love for your wife and the pain that both of you are having to deal with. No it's not easy to maintain some sort of window that is fogging up on both sides. But I believe that our 'male' side was not ever perfect to begin with, it's an illusion to think we have always had everything together in the first place.<br /><br />Once we accept that we Kay & Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244257765709660605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-60834070611664483082010-06-04T08:38:14.757-04:002010-06-04T08:38:14.757-04:00Your words have stricken chords in me that I have ...Your words have stricken chords in me that I have long since forgotten. It took me years to accept the person with in that simply could not be boxed up any longer. It is very apparent how much love you have for your honey as it shows in your emotional words. I feel for you as well as for her. Communication for myself as well as others around me in my life is the only thing that makes it better. <Leslie Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04023309641894450256noreply@blogger.com