tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post8897830463771525287..comments2024-01-31T09:36:11.225-05:00Comments on Two Spirits - One Halle: Loneliness and FriendshipHallehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-12809088355669434592012-01-17T03:14:20.194-05:002012-01-17T03:14:20.194-05:00I have found some level of acceptance amongst the ...I have found some level of acceptance amongst the initial few with whom i have shared my secret. I have no understanding though of how they would be if I did make the jump. <br /><br />Whilst this has lessened the feelings of isolation I still feel lonely to an extent in the non virtual world. People just don't understand how all consuming this thing is. <br /><br />Virtual friends have been Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14342124169953960479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-83089951486065651042012-01-16T10:41:04.129-05:002012-01-16T10:41:04.129-05:00Sarah, you have reminded me of how much easier it ...Sarah, you have reminded me of how much easier it would feel to tell the world "I am transitioning" full stop and wait for reaction, instead of "I really should transition, but instead what I am doing is..." . <br /><br />That 'what is going on instead' part is so damnably complicated. Imagining the dialogue would be almost laughable if it wasn't more apt to make Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-13266378277087643532012-01-16T09:10:42.355-05:002012-01-16T09:10:42.355-05:00Suzi,
I find your observations are on the mark. O...Suzi,<br /><br />I find your observations are on the mark. One of the things that I run into in transitioning is that I by necessity am coming out to people that I know and love. This includes members of my family. I believe it will lessen the surprise of when I go full time and have to explain that I am Sarah and why.<br /><br />As to your suspicion that many of the non trans people you know Sarah Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13018597739320720216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-65867856914928987862012-01-15T22:03:39.420-05:002012-01-15T22:03:39.420-05:00Suzi, I too worry about the self-imposed separatio...Suzi, I too worry about the self-imposed separation wall. It hides my heart from so many, and yes it bothers me that I am definitely underrating some portion of my 'companions' along the way. <br /><br />Thank you for all you do to help dispel the loneliness.Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-50281416633999817132012-01-15T16:53:51.232-05:002012-01-15T16:53:51.232-05:00You mentioned how you "squandered the chance ...You mentioned how you "squandered the chance to find those of that group who would not have rejected me at all, but might have embraced me as who I really was."<br /><br />This is something that eats at me constantly. I, too, believe that many non-trans people I know would accept me as I really am. Sometimes I find myself wishing I could "out" myself to someone besides my wifeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-51858752062880977872012-01-15T09:53:29.827-05:002012-01-15T09:53:29.827-05:00Ellena, you and I are not quite neighbours, yet I ...Ellena, you and I are not quite neighbours, yet I think we are not all that far away, physically or in our minds; both seekers of a sort.<br /> <br />This experience (blogging about my personal issues and things that have been revealed by thinking and feeling deeply about them) has taught me that love and friendship are very different from the limited thing I knew before. <br />I feel convinced Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-9716687345805258232012-01-15T09:16:02.602-05:002012-01-15T09:16:02.602-05:00Now you got me thinking. What am I to you? Not a t...Now you got me thinking. What am I to you? Not a trans-friend. A reader-friend? A friend is a friend. Does one need to specify school-friend, office-friend or f...friend? Is it possible that you have friends to whom you could lay bare your soul and that you have trans-friends to whom it would be wise not to bear your soul? All this because I am asking myself who my friends are.Ellenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14965850008354379369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-86934927435168922032012-01-14T11:44:11.382-05:002012-01-14T11:44:11.382-05:00Thank you all for these comments.
Interactions i...Thank you all for these comments. <br /><br />Interactions in the past two years with those met through blogging have been the most important in my whole life. The word friend gets misused online, but as Calie says, these trans-friends have been someone who I can lay bare my soul to, and that has made such a difference.Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-46891791773076650472012-01-14T11:24:56.457-05:002012-01-14T11:24:56.457-05:00I've never had many truly close friends in my ...I've never had many truly close friends in my life, Halle. Perhaps 4 or 5 when I was younger and two that I can think of right now. <br /><br />This excludes the many, many trans friendships I have made in the last 6 years or so. Looking back on things, the friends I really wanted to have, especially in grade school and up, were girls. I wanted them as friends to talk to but not as Caliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-58058482926066246892012-01-13T23:23:44.195-05:002012-01-13T23:23:44.195-05:00A notebook may be portable but doesn't provide...A notebook may be portable but doesn't provide feedback in terms of comments. I guess that's why we blog. I'll join the chorus in having experienced the feeling of being lonely in a crowd of people. An experience I remember was as a teenager going through a crowded shopping mall to visit the tobacconist there, the feeling of "intensity" was overwhelming and intoxicating.<br Sarah Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13018597739320720216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-15871735214522211912012-01-13T17:40:12.359-05:002012-01-13T17:40:12.359-05:00Not alone...just lonely...I believe that sums up w...Not alone...just lonely...I believe that sums up what most of us out here have felt, at least at one time or another.<br /><br />Yes, I too could probably manage to live alone...if that is what was thrust upon me. After all, that is how most of us managed to get to this point in our lives, we push on. Now, if push comes to shove, I would much rather stay with my sweetheart of forty years. I have Cynthia Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16222413324022459669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-5465704011659168212012-01-13T13:31:43.117-05:002012-01-13T13:31:43.117-05:00Lonely in a crowd just about sums up the life that...Lonely in a crowd just about sums up the life that is dishonest to yourself in one way anne to everyone else in the opposite way at the very same time...Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.com