tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post3075542897941718731..comments2024-01-31T09:36:11.225-05:00Comments on Two Spirits - One Halle: Only a Rhetorical QuestionHallehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-84500729068774285142010-07-03T08:54:49.237-04:002010-07-03T08:54:49.237-04:00Halle, anyone who is not at the sterotypical poles...Halle, anyone who is not at the sterotypical poles of the genders has to work through their answer to this question, and I know for sure that what works for others is most right for them but not me- no prescriptions. Having said that I suppose I have chosen the middle of the road, but for me, its just the road. I'm happy and content with that choice but also struggling and challenged by it.Claire L Hallamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01535569086150530774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-38775249323856864602010-07-03T07:52:31.039-04:002010-07-03T07:52:31.039-04:00Sophie, when I suggest pain is the likely upshot, ...Sophie, when I suggest pain is the likely upshot, you know it isn't just the physical type I am sure. There are very positive examples available, and I do appreciate hearing from them regularly. Their continued presence here in Blogistan is really important, as you suggest. <br /><br />Everyone has to assess their own circumstances. My male persona has been too good. I am not bragging here. Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-66928245104173679902010-07-03T07:29:39.204-04:002010-07-03T07:29:39.204-04:00Well, I have no answer for your question, only you...Well, I have no answer for your question, only you can answer that. But I do have to wonder about your statement "From all reports, beginning transition to female at my age, marital and economic situation is a tremendously painful experience". I would say you need to look at some more reports.<br /><br />I have a friend who just had SRS at age 70, I know several couples whose Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05117237397242817491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-53665348982486111492010-07-02T20:40:29.274-04:002010-07-02T20:40:29.274-04:00Halle, I must admit that once I had become very aw...Halle, I must admit that once I had become very aware that I was trans-whatever, it became very difficult to be even the not-very-masculine guy I was. I had seen the promised land, and I couldn't hold myself back from going to it. So I have some idea of how difficult it must be for you, and how worn down you can get. I was OK before I became truly aware. Afterward, the genie was out.<br /Véro Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02895169022031921712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-40553582924117871922010-07-02T17:07:02.222-04:002010-07-02T17:07:02.222-04:00It sure is difficult trying to work this all out.
...It sure is difficult trying to work this all out.<br />No one can answer this quetion for you but you.<br />But one thing I can say is that now I knbow I have to transition and have started down this path, the confusion and depression has been replaced with more practicle issues of how to do it while keeping everyone on board.<br />I hated the years trying to work out what I should do.<br /><br /Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-74445487397823909652010-07-02T16:52:25.335-04:002010-07-02T16:52:25.335-04:00Thanks for trying to answer that rhetorical questi...Thanks for trying to answer that rhetorical question Roni. I will try to answer yours.<br /><br />I am having little success feeling comfortable in my male persona these days. It really is something false; a façade and it rankles. There are many activities I participate in that I would still be in as a woman, but the gender binary is amazingly strong. I look like a man and talk like a man (even Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-50357220352139984072010-07-02T15:40:30.792-04:002010-07-02T15:40:30.792-04:00One thing I wonder is whether the situation is as ...One thing I wonder is whether the situation is as binary as you are painting it. Why must you devote yourself to stereotypical male pursuits? (When you say "male" I assume you mean stereotypically male.) Might it be possible to be yourself, to some extent, in your male body? It wasn't possible for me, so maybe it's not possible for you either. Just wondering.<br /><br />I'Véro Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02895169022031921712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-58614582824611000412010-07-02T12:13:06.365-04:002010-07-02T12:13:06.365-04:00Perhaps the middle road might be better viewed as ...Perhaps the middle road might be better viewed as a privilege. <br /><br />As to your question, I would hope that you do your best to enjoy the (admittedly at times, dubious) privilege.<br /><br />For me I would go mad thinking of my middle road as anything other.<br /><br />Happy travels.Petra Bellejambeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325233285694315036noreply@blogger.com