tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post4326256071747808452..comments2024-01-31T09:36:11.225-05:00Comments on Two Spirits - One Halle: Shifting FocusHallehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-58349908460666996382011-06-21T22:40:16.583-04:002011-06-21T22:40:16.583-04:00I've been reading the Sookie Stackhouse series...I've been reading the Sookie Stackhouse series of books. I just finished the 3rd book in the set. These are the kind of fun books that can take my mind off of other "thoughts"....or at least try. Frankly, however, my mind never leaves the world of what you term a "disability", no matter how hard I try.<br /><br />Sookie has what she terms a "disability". She&Caliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-51090751906794407512011-06-10T12:49:12.049-04:002011-06-10T12:49:12.049-04:00Ellena, it is so very true, we all need to find th...Ellena, it is so very true, we all need to find that person inside. If we don't love that little 'kiddo' who will, eh? :)Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-51675784429853340302011-06-10T09:37:06.011-04:002011-06-10T09:37:06.011-04:00Maybe it's also time to look at this little &#...Maybe it's also time to look at this little 'kiddo', way down inside you, and love it to pieces. No better way to treat any ailment we have, I think, Halle.Ellenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14965850008354379369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-60581106547072392862011-06-08T05:55:25.124-04:002011-06-08T05:55:25.124-04:00Teagan, I was just reading about the first 'cu...Teagan, I was just reading about the first 'cured' HIV patient, and reflecting on how people who were infected were treated thirty years ago. You are right. You don't have to do anything wrong for people to hate you mindlessly.<br /><br />As to the question you asked, yes, I am aware of the appropriate treatment (that I am putting off as long as possible). What I am doing right now isHallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-79631105960920664582011-06-07T16:45:45.248-04:002011-06-07T16:45:45.248-04:00Disability isn't necessarily a bad metaphor fo...Disability isn't necessarily a bad metaphor for this condition you find yourself afflicted with. Of course, with this disability, we're shunned rather than helped by society. <br /><br />At any rate, there are millions and millions of people living with all sorts of disability. Focusing on your abilities and your strengths sounds like a perfectly reasonable and positive, way to move Falinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07006373893076810290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-26801386674892200072011-06-07T10:40:25.907-04:002011-06-07T10:40:25.907-04:00Hehe, sure thing. It's an old habit, I often d...Hehe, sure thing. It's an old habit, I often don't realize I'm doing it and it doesn't occur to me that I might be talking to someone older than me, but no one's been bothered yet, as far as I can tell. :)Rhiann Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06356411691136490005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-65184792602622605292011-06-07T08:50:29.539-04:002011-06-07T08:50:29.539-04:00By the way, Rhiann, thanks for the 'kiddo'...By the way, Rhiann, thanks for the 'kiddo', it has been many years since that last time someone called me that and I always felt very special when she did.<br />:)Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-56560280040612849212011-06-07T08:47:17.188-04:002011-06-07T08:47:17.188-04:00I have to agree totally Suzi, feeling guilty is ju...I have to agree totally Suzi, feeling guilty is just part of the circle of hell and it is not part of a healing process at all, which is what I am in search of. Accepting what I am is definitely part of this shift in focus.<br />Rhiann, being who I am, and what I am inside is something included in my catalog of blessings. The disability metaphor definitely does not work if we transition. That is Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-4449368921234792352011-06-06T22:48:15.657-04:002011-06-06T22:48:15.657-04:00There simply does not seem to be just one pat answ...There simply does not seem to be just one pat answer to who we are. I like what Rhiann said, that we have to grow beyond even the very IDEA that there is something wrong with us. Why do we need to feel GUILTY about being different? I think it would be very hard indeed to find a transgender that says, "yeah, one day I just decided I wanted to dress, act, and maybe even be a woman."<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-44259698236740803192011-06-06T18:46:32.190-04:002011-06-06T18:46:32.190-04:00I feel like we could spend years trying to come up...I feel like we could spend years trying to come up with just the right metaphor, just the right analogy, to put into words what the transgender experience is like. I’ve lost count of how many I’ve used to try to explain to cis-people what it was all about. <br /><br />I rolled around the disability metaphor for a while. It came up for me after coming out to my dad, whose primary concern was that Rhiann Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06356411691136490005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-14464520424132271962011-06-06T18:10:13.966-04:002011-06-06T18:10:13.966-04:00What makes who you are as a human being are your a...What makes who you are as a human being are your abilities, especially those that were not gifted but struggled for. Disabilities provide some of the lattice structure of your humanity. Making your disabilities into inabilities dismantles the structure thereby weakening you. Making them into abilities strengthens.<br /><br />I think that you are beginning to take a view of the whole of you andKathryn Dumkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16054997856180869508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-289781773836799532011-06-06T13:33:04.913-04:002011-06-06T13:33:04.913-04:00Hello Halle,
I don't think I have anything pr...Hello Halle,<br /><br />I don't think I have anything profound to say. I have lived in ignorance of my situation for over 60 years. I really don't believe I will change anything except to come to an understanding in my own mind that I am what I am. There are too many consequences to doing anything else. I believe I can continue on my path only because I have my faith to sustain me. I can Cynthia Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16222413324022459669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270306578933066732.post-16150807744461963922011-06-06T13:28:58.628-04:002011-06-06T13:28:58.628-04:00I was a little puzzled by the previous entry, but ...I was a little puzzled by the previous entry, but now things are clearer. I think it's great to focus on your abilities! And good to be reminded that I should focus on mine.<br /><br />When you mentioned about not being able to perceive someone's disability, I thought about people who suffer from chronic pain. There's nothing they can do other than to cope as well as possible, and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com