My sweetie has been such a trooper. Under tremendous pressure of changes nobody else she has ever known has experience with, she has made a choice. She and I will transition together. But what does that mean in reality?
This morning she told me one more time that I can't understand what she is going through.
She is right of course, and yet, it is not her who is bringing stress upon her. It is someone who thinks she is being a loyal friend.
Perhaps the most amazingly stupid question ever asked a transsexual, or her partner: "Have you given any thought to how what you are doing will affect those around you?"
This loyal friend isn't actually asking that, but she and her husband are evoking it. Over and Over...
Every day or so, they are making her aware of their fears that she and I will have no friends once transition becomes obvious to everyone.
They might be right.
We both hope they are wrong.
Yet I cannot help but think that a real friend will try to offer support for the path their friend has chosen.
I wonder when that part will begin, because if it doesn't start soon, this death by a thousand cuts will have to come to an end.