A friend and I were talking about something that has begun and is very important for me; finding ways of letting friends and loved ones know what is happening in your life as you are beginning the process of transition. She went through this some years ago and admitting no two people found out in the same way. This is particularly important if you are hoping as I am, to be able to show those you care about that you trust them to be constant as your friend. To do this, they need to be let in on the secret before it becomes obvious to anyone that you are transitioning. Then it comes as a shock, and they are thinking "why didn't she (wishful thinking this is the pronoun) tell us long ago?"
At some point in the chat, we came to a question very likely to be asked:
"Why now? Why not put transition off longer? You have been able to put it off until now."
If you cannot answer this one, well, then you should put it off.
Perhaps a harder and related question is "Why did you wait so long before declaring this is something that must happen?"
The really short answers go like this.
I waited because I could.
I am not putting it off any longer, because I can't.
Another question that is going to get asked: How do your spouse and kids feel about what is happening?
Our kids told me they know that no matter what, I will be the same person for them; always their dad.
My sweetie has told me she will support me, and wants us to transition together.
I am a very lucky gal.