"The unexamined life is not worth living" Socrates

- - scatterings of ideas sent to my younger self, a sensitive girl who was fooled into believing she was a boy because of anatomy - -

Sunday, 2 August 2015

Chosen Family

A woman with many companions 
             may come to ruin, 
but there is a friend         
who will stick closer than a sister
Adapted from Proverbs 18:24

The previous post left you thinking that my sweetie is amazing and she is. And yet, if it were up to her, I would never have made that trip that day. If it were up to her, I would never have realized I am trans, and all of this would go away. As patient and loving as she is, she wants desperately to live with a man.

There are women in my life who are like sisters to me. Steadfast and true. Bear with me as I tell you about two who have helped me change my life.

Coline and I have been corresponding for years now. She lives across the pond, but that hasn't stopped us from getting to know one another, and finding out how much like twins we are. Heavens, we finish each others sentences or type the very same thing back at one another simultaneously in most of our chats.

Alice and I only met this past February, and in that short time have come to be so close. She and I live in close enough proximity that we can visit regularly, just for lunch sometimes, which we do.

Last week, I probably wouldn't have made it to that appointment without the support of these two. As mentioned in the previous post, I was in a terrible turmoil about going. Neither of them talked me into doing anything, but they boosted my self-confidence and reminded me of things I have said and told them.
I know Coline would have come with me on that long drive if she could, but it was Alice who told me she would love to be part of this big day. She did the driving. When we stopped for the inevitable first trip to the ladies' room, she was by my side (in the next stall!) to make sure I didn't get into any trouble. Lunch together was so relaxed. Well, just like two girlfriends out together, because that is what we are!

As the day went by, it became so clear to me that I was in my element finally, but I cannot leave the topic of that day, without singing the praises of friends who stick closer than a sister, mine or anyone else's for that matter.

Love you both!!


  1. I'm glad you have 2 good friends to make your journey not only easier, but more enjoyable too.

    1. The day was relaxing and fun. These are aspects of life that nobody should have to fight to get.

  2. Yes, I simply cannot imagine life without "friends who stick closer than a sister" ... Prost!

    1. Prost, dear Smokey Swallow; to chosen sisters!