Mrs. H is away for a few days, so duties which have traditionally been hers (because that is how she likes it) have become mine. The situation has been perfect for my gradual movement toward understanding myself as one who comfortably crosses traditional gender roles. It was always that way as a youth, learning how to do everything that needed to be done around the house and doing it very happily.
A few days ago I hosted a small dinner party for two couples who I volunteer with. Looking back on that day, the preparation of the house; cleaning and disinfecting the washrooms, dusting, vacuuming, setting the dinner table and preparing the meal (mostly done ahead), I really had fun. I was, of course in drab for their visit. None of these people have a clue (at least I don't think they do) about my gender issues. During that day, neither did I. For a whole day, I was just 'me'. I would have acted the same no matter what clothing I had laid out and worn. Since it was casual, the clothing probably wouldn't have been too different anyway; 'Sunday-go-meeting' jeans and a nice sweater (jumper?... “I didn't jump or sweat” lol) was pretty androgynous, and comfortable.
None of my 'cloned male stereotypes' showed up for the party. Yay! :)
The title reference is me wondering if maybe Jedi Halle is playing little mind tricks on us; just be yourself she is saying. Her strategy works out well more and more often. That is all I can ask really. One day at a time.